The 3 subtle shifts I needed to accidentally commit to these 8 HABITS with wonderful results
Accidentally committed. Those words from someone that says, often, that that things don't happen accidentally - and to be honest, they don't and when I look closer at it these didn't.
I could be mistaken to think they are accidental in my life cause I have ben adamant that 'I don't do "all of these things" "all the time" for very long' and 'I am not into commitment or routine' ...but that isn't the truth. I had set an intention of letting go of the ick I felt around routine. I wanted to shift, I wanted to add more gentle things, including discipline - I just didn't want another PLAN or CHECKLIST to get there.
Setting up the idea that I wanted more moments of and opportunities for wellness to show up meant I also had to do three things, and maybe they will help you too.
1. Listen to quiet whispers to say 'YES' (or no)
2, Just doing the very thing you thought you could not do'.
3. Curiously making better choices on a moment-to-moment basis that felt good
All three played a part of choosing to prioritise how I felt and how I wanted to feel in my day to day life.
Regardless of the path to get here, I am living and breathing the goodness in the moment and the flow on effects, and it feels pretty bloody good.
1. Daily walk, jog, run.
If you read my post on coffee, it will not be a surprise that the commitment to go and get my cup of joe from a cafe 5km away was the motivation I needed initially...until it became a habit that I loved. I have such weird-ness around exercise and need it to come from a real place of ease for me - otherwise I get too into it and feel like I go back to square one on all the work I have chosen to do with my 21 year old unkind belittling self! Couch to 5K has been amazing, and it is a welcome part of my day.
2. At least 1 Tbs coconut oil, and no olive oil.
I haven’t been measuring it 'officially', but I do feel better without olive oil at the moment. I have picked up some beautiful small batch macadamia oil, and pumpkin seed oils that I love to use in salads, but it is coconut oil or butter the rest of the time. Nuts, seeds and avos are still around of course.
3. 1 tsp of cacao every day or two.
Any more than that and I don’t feel relaxed and euphoric, I feel a bit too ramped up, and stimulated.
I find that a tsp of cacao with 1/2 Tbs of coconut oil, and 1/2 Tbs of peanut butter is a nice treat, that curbs the appetite and is just yum. Really yum.
4. Phone free, Internet free, Social Media free.
Driving through areas without reception made it easier, as did leaving the phone at home for dinners out and, I know I have said this a lot, but my phone doesn’t come into the bedroom. It is out on the kitchen bench where there is also a lemon waiting for me in the morning - yes, subtle cues like leaving it near the lemon helps me drink the lemon water in the morning.
5. Increased nature time.
Every day I wake up to see water, and run along side it. Lunch outside is a bonus if I can swing it - but every weekend we have been getting out to explore our new area and it makes me so happy. I have said the words ‘oh, isn’t that really beautiful’ a lot.
6.Embraced ‘being’ more.
Despite this post actually being a list, I have had less hard and fast lists, and it is interesting to note that I actually increased my output this month when I embraced just 'being' me, in the moment, more.
Bonus points for not apologising or getting cranky at myself about it - have been letting go of that story for about a year now. LOL.
The nature and reduced time on social media really helps to reduce new incoming stimulus, that certainly makes it easier to bring ease, into my days. I have become more conscious of the info I expose myself to (read: no news channel running in the background when working at home!).
7. Tried new recipes.
...and I actually followed them, I didn’t just look at the picture and then decide how I would cook it! This has been in the back of my mind for a little while to keep exploring, learning and trying new techniques - I get stuck doing it my way.
What did I cook?
This Lemongrass + Turmeric Paste by Heidi Swanson, and this Miso Mayo by Yotam Ottolenghi - for those of you who don’t know Yotam - I would love this man to be my husband, but he is way too old and prefers men. His food is a continued inspiration to me.
8. Committed to less tabs open and more brain fm.
Staying on task, blocking/chunking my time and getting it all done has been fixed by CLARITY around the job at hand and staying FOCUSED til it is done - brain.fm is god sent for me. I don’t do this all the time, I am not a robot or that reformed from my resistance to routine, but I am doing it more and loving the outcome.
What is your favourite new habit you have adopted? I'd love to hear in the comments below!